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Communicating with the hospice patient with dementia

By Erin Bouquet, Hospice Volunteer

Have you had a personal experience with dementia?

Most have, whether it be with a family member, a friend, or a patient. Those of us who have had multiple experiences understand that every situation is different, and each person’s dementia is unique.

A recent patient experience challenged me to think outside of the box in order to communicate with someone that had Alzheimer’s disease. Read more

A brief history of hospice

By Jean Francis, Hospice Volunteer Coordinator

This year marks 40 years of hospice care in America, an anniversary we should all take pride in celebrating. Hospice comes from the Latin word “hospes” which means hospitality. The first hospices date back to the Middle Ages with volunteers at convents and monasteries providing shelter and food to wayward travelers. Travel by foot and horseback over rudimentary roads was treacherous during these times and these early hospices were similar to hostels. Read more

The moralities of comfort and cure at end of life

By Ron King, D.Min., LMFT

Hospice care requires a choice between seeking comfort care or seeking a cure for a disease.

When choosing comfort care, we honor the dignity and right of patients and families to choose.  Comfort care may also honor the body’s natural illness/healing process and process of dying.

When we choose aggressive cure, we honor the possibility of longer life.  Cure may also honor advances in medical technology and the ability of physicians to assist in finding a remedy. Read more

Honoring veterans at end of life: understanding goes a long way

By Cookie Dickerson, RN

Last night I caught a rerun of JAG, the 80s television series about lawyers representing members of the US Navy. Last night’s case centered on a Vietnam veteran who, after several stressful life events including divorce and separation from his kids, began having flashbacks to his experience in ‘Nam. This was after more than several decades of promotions and exemplary professional performance.

Yes, it’s a story, but it reminds us that experiences of war sometimes come back to veterans at the end of life. Read more

Aromatherapy in end-of-life care

By Valerie Hartman, RN, CMT, CR, Complementary Therapy Nurse

A month ago the Caring with Confidence team got together for a brainstorming session over lunch.  We reviewed past blog posts, discussed topics of interest to hospice caregivers for the upcoming year.  To date, the most popular Caring with Confidence blog post was written on The Use of Biblical Essential Oils in Hospice.

Aromatherapy is gaining ground as a complementary healthcare approach and it is a natural solution to easing mild symptoms, as well as promoting comfort and dignity in hospice caregiving.

What is Aromatherapy?

Aromatherapy is the use of expressed plant oils for human and animal health benefits.  Read more

Selfless service: Honoring the hospice patient’s wishes

By Lauri Weiss, CRNP

Seva, or selfless service, is a traditional yogic concept. The Sanskrit word seva comes from the root siv or sev, meaning to serve or to honor. One of the reasons I work as a Hospice/Palliative Care Nurse Practitioner is because I believe hospice offers an opportunity to serve and honor patients. I know many of the people I work with feel the same way.

A recent patient experience made me take a closer look at what it really means to honor and serve selflessly. I am often asked to visit patients for symptom management consults. A few weeks ago, I was asked to visit a patient, Charlie, who was having severe pain. After speaking with Charlie, getting a history of the illness and doing a physical assessment, I made several recommendations for pain management interventions.

I later found that Charlie refused all of my recommendations. Read more

Hospice without borders: Global Partners in Care

By Maggie Vescovich, SLP

In the United States, we take access to hospice care for granted.  In fact, our biggest hurdles are usually convincing family members to use hospice services, not finding an agency to provide the care.

Would it surprise you to learn that there are many areas in the world where hospice programs do not exist?

Global Partners in Care has its roots back in 1999, after U.S. hospice leaders had a powerful experience while touring hospices in Zimbabwe and South Africa. Read more

You might be ready for hospice if…

By Ron King, D.Min., LMFT, Hospice Chaplain

You might be ready for hospice if your doctor reports there are no further treatment options available to you.

  • If no treatment options exist for a serious condition or if available treatment is considered too risky for you, it may be time to consider taking advantage of your hospice benefit.  Encourage your physician to be honest with you about options and be sure you understand the potential risks and benefits to each choice.

You might be ready for hospice if your doctor has offered extreme life saving measures that have an uncertain outcome, limited benefit or percentage of success and your main goal at the end of your life is to be comfortable. Read more

How do we grieve? Let me count the ways….

by Pat McGettigan, M.S.

A recent article in the NY Times which talks about the process of grieving gave me pause to begin to think about the men and women who have come through my office at the Counseling Center seeking help as they navigate their own grief after the loss of a loved one.  The article cited research on the grieving process, mentioned Elizabeth Kubler Ross’ five stages of grief and a new way of grieving developed by a young widow.

As I pictured the faces of and recalled the words of many of those who sought help during their grieving process one thing was clear to me.   Almost all of them wondered if how they were grieving was “normal”.   As a society many of us tend to want a “recipe” for unfamiliar or painful transitions. When we can look up what to expect it can comfort us and remove the anxiety of facing “the unknown”.  But what happens when our grief process doesn’t follow “the recipe”? Read more

Finding inner strength during hospice caregiving

By Valerie Hartman

Today I was driving in my car between hospice visits.  I turned on WHYY, our local public radio station, I and heard the end of a segment on creativity, a conversation facilitated by psychologist Dan Gottlieb with guest psychologist Tara Brach. Brach says that when we afraid and overwhelmed, it’s easy to turn away from ourselves for comfort. Instead, Brach urges us to explore pathways to “carry us to an inner sanctuary…[that] is always there for us–and within which we begin to find strength and peace.” Poet Ellen Bass also shared her way of expressing her inner thoughts through poetry.

Perhaps with the recent death of poet Maya Angelou—or perhaps being the anniversary of my mother’s birth date (she, a Poet Laureate herself)—Ellen Bass grabbed my attention.  She is an award-winning poet and she writes beautifully about emotional difficulty – including death, dying, grief, and loss.

In honor of the great Maya Angelou, and the poetic expression that can help heal emotional depths of pain, I share with Caring With Confidence readers a few thoughts on writing poetry and one of Dan Gottlieb’s favorite Ellen Bass poems.

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